Do you have a spot in your house that is a catch-all for ALL THE STUFF?
At my house, it’s the dining room table. Friday mornings are my clean the house hours. Every week, I am amazed by how much stuff accumulates on the dining room table. Like, what would do if we actually wanted to eat there? It’s not my favorite chore, but it’s necessary. I think we could all agree with the value in having a clear space. A decluttered space gives me a sense or accomplishment and calm. A dining room table heaped with paper, laundry, junk mail, random toys and art supplies makes me…….not calm.
Decluttering our thoughts is equally important as decluttering our spaces.
Many women are stuck in a cluttered mindset as it relates to their health and wellness. They set out a goal, or have an idea of what they’d like their healthy lifestyle to look like.
The next thought that pops up for them is something like “well, that won’t happen because…..” or “If only I could….., then it might work” or “that sounds great, but I have…….in my life to deal with.”
They’re essentially beginning their journey towards a healthy, balanced life preloaded with excuses.
They’re not wrong. They may even feel like they’re just being honest. And they are! Part of creating your own wellness path is being honest with the limitations you are facing or may face. This is where the decluttering comes in.
They’ve convinced themselves that this negative, limiting thought is true and the conventional wisdom on mindset tells us that we have to replace that thought with the opposite positive thought. But the problem is that that opposite positive thought feels unrealistic so we don’t believe it. This is the clutter. We’re cluttered with negative, limiting thoughts and with unrealistic bordering on perfectionism thoughts and it gets very confusing,
To declutter, we need to replace this tornado of confusing thoughts with a single open minded thought that acknowledges that nothing is perfect but we are capable of finding a way.
Negative thought: My family will never eat these healthy recipes that I want to make. I don’t want to deal with the dinner battles, I can’t change my eating habits.
Unrealistic/perfectionist thought: My family will totally love every new recipe I make and my kids will request healthy food every day and never mention chicken nuggets again.
Open minded thought: I am committed to developing healthier eating habits. My family may not love every recipe I try, but they will like some things and we can still have our old favorites once in awhile.
Basing this thought process in optimistic realism makes your goal seem a lot more doable, which boosts confidence, which makes you more likely to reach your outcome without guilt or stress.
Where do you need to declutter today?